Welcome to Sex In-the-920! I’m the Carrie Bradshaw of UW Oshkosh, or your college sex guru. Throughout life we come across suspicious individuals. Some people just appear sus, or some just are sus. But, there’s one thing I know and that’s if your heart, brain and gut are all telling you the same thing​​—you’re making the right decision. And if that all goes to fail, trusting your gut really is the way to go. I feel as a society that we forget to trust our internal selves, so I couldn’t help but wonder, are we just ignoring that voice inside?

I have gone on a few dates where I just felt off. As soon as I sat down, I felt anxious and sick, and maybe it was a bad reaction to the food, but I knew deep down that that wasn’t it. It had only been a week after talking to this individual, but my skin had broken out, and I had never missed a skin care day! I knew something wasn’t right, but I still needed to try and not make a stupid decision. With that being said, I just felt uncomfortable, and my gut told me no. As my gut yelled no, my brain said go home, my heart still said try. But as some say, when in doubt, gut it out. I got out of the situation, and while my skin hasn’t cleared up yet, I know deep down I made the best decision for me.

It really is safe to say that your intuition is always right. You hear that song everywhere for a reason, you see that person everywhere for a reason, or that number every day for a reason. While a coincidence may occur here and there, not everything is always a coincidence. Trusting yourself is the first step into finding a new relationship. You really can’t trust someone else if you can’t trust yourself. I do believe it is important to have an open mind, but when something, or someone, is telling you something, you really shouldn’t ignore it, because it is happening for a reason. Remember, you’re only given to yourself once, it’s important that you take care of yourself and trust your intuition.