Welcome to Sex In-The-920! I’m the Carrie Bradshaw of UW-Oshkosh, or your college sex guru. I feel like it’s always cuffing season. But with cuffing season comes flirting, and you’d be surprised how many people don’t know how to flirt. When you want to get back in the game, you have to remember how to do it. It’s difficult to get in a relationship in today’s age. With dating apps, and everything being digital, I couldn’t help but wonder, when did we stop asking people out the old-fashioned way? I’ve gathered some of my greatest techniques that I’ve not only learned from other people, but also just from myself. Remember, everyone has their own way of flirting and you may grasp flirting as something else! Read someone’s body language, tone in voice and actions. Actions always speak louder than words.
- The ‘Juicy Red Lip’
The “Juicy Red Lip” accentuates your talking and mouth. Having chapped lips is unattractive. No one wants to be kissing sandpaper. Keeping your lips constantly moisturized can confirm that someone will look at them and want them. You can also do more than just communicate with your lips. Looking at someone’s lips when they talk also can be very flirty and make them nervous in a good way. Keeping a constant rhythm of eye contact and looking at their lips will guarantee a future conversation.
- Eye contact
I believe the most powerful element of a face is the eyes. Eye contact can intimidate someone, make them smile or even want to flirt back. There’s a way to make your eyes more flirty. For me, I have big eyes, so I make them look bigger, and somehow flutter my eyelashes. But if you have, what is called siren eyes, there’s a way where you can squint them a bit to make them look darker and edgier. The way you use your eyes can really help you flirt. Talk with your eyes, because as they say, the eyes never lie.
- Voice
This is the way you talk can indicate that you’re flirting, obviously. Talking slower and low can add more levels to your voice and can really excite your partner, or future partner. Also, finding what you guys can easily talk about is so important. Me and my partner always make jokes and laugh, but also are able to be serious. Sometimes we flirt with jokes and it makes it cuter! Each relationship is different, and it depends what you’re willing to say and do. Voice also ties in with what you say. Compliment your partner and tell them they look good, ask someone for their number and not their social media, and tell them you like them, or are attracted to them. Actions do speak louder than words, but words can get you a long way.
When finding ways to flirt, it’s fun to play around. Remember each relationship is different, and what works for someone may not work for you. Everyone has different ways to flirt, and you just have to find your way. But, the triangle look can help. Looking at their eyes, lips and continuing that process can guarantee some flirtatious action.
